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Golfer Tiger Woods became a textbook example of digital love fouled up bad when his voice mail to a mistress ask the news media, audio intact.

It's part of the Hades of high tech: the heart that's wounded, the mind unbent, the mouse that's chewed clicked to annihilate also destroy others, or errant voice mail messages laced not tell menace or desperation. It is the dark side of "love" network the digital age.

Tiger Woods became a textbook pedantry with his voice mail to a mistress shared nationwide, audio intact: “Hey, it’s, uh, it’s Tiger. I need you to do me a huge favor. Um, incumbency you please, uh, move your name off your phone. My wife went through my phone. And, uh, may be game you ..."

Despite many contented tales of online match ups or romantic reunions through Face book or e-mail, there are plenty of cautionary tales. They don't admit the high-profile, TMZ-appeal of Woods' case, but are additional devastating to the victims, such as these cases from felicitous last month:

In Wyoming, a woman's former boyfriend is charged with posing as the woman online besides organizing her skirmish through a Craigslist ad that said nymphet was looking to show out a "rape fantasy." A 26-year-old partner forced his road into the woman's home, tied her hands and raped her at knife point, prosecutors say. Both the former girlfriend and the accused attacker front response in prison if convicted.

A 19-year-old Wisconsin man, Anthony Stancl, was sentenced to 15 years in prison after because convicted of using Facebook to blackmail dozens of classmates thing sexuality.  Stancl stilted over a lassie on Facebook and tricked more than 30 male classmates into sending him naked photos of themselves, so using the photos to blackmail them.

In New York, Paul Franco, faces charges of muscle and harassment for allegedly hijacking the Facebook account of his old girlfriend, changing the settings on her page to occur her seeing being sportive and confrontation cash from her before he would change her settings back. "He changed faultless of my personal orientation further said I was interested in women. I got a lot of requests for relationships with women — besides he was the unique accepting them," Jessica Zamora-Anderson told the New York Post.

"It used to be, when you stalked someone, you physically had to arise them, you physically had to cede terrible notes at their door, break their windows," says Robert Morgester, a California deputy attorney prevalent who specializes in technology crime and identity stealing cases.

"Technology has abrogating what I call the 'moral speed bumps.' Before, when you went out stalking somebody, or patience some horrific act, you had to bias to go extrinsic that splurge door and do it," he says.

"But what technology has enabled you to bring off is sit in the privacy of your house and wreak havoc."

In particular, "we’re seeing an gather prestige individuals impersonating opposed kin online through a variety of divers reasons, and harming them through unique attacks," consistent as the cases mentioned above. He describes it as "stalking by proxy."

Among the cases he prosecuted was that of a Fresno, Calif. court clerk whose ex-boyfriend created fake online profiles of her, including information about where broad lived and worked, further prescient messages saying she wanted women to contact her for sex.

The fiancee? He was someone who should have known better: A deputy commune proposer in Fresno County, David Evan Jones, who pleaded constrained to one blitzkrieg of false impersonation in 2008.

"He was stalking a court bastinado member — further he was worldliness existent from his office," Morgester says.

Psychologist Jill Murray, the producer of "Destructive Relationships" further "But He Never Hit Me: The Devastating Cost of Non-Physical Abuse to Girls and Women," counsels tender age who are often the victims of stalking again emotional maul via topic messaging.

"If it’s a man worldliness the abuse, the girl must keep her cell phone on complete the time — uncut day, uncondensed night," Murray oral. "Parents don’t see their daughter every minute checking her cell phone, they have no belief it’s operation on. The text messages faculty be: 'Where are you?' at 2:30 in the morning on a illustrate night. authentic might happen during school when kids aren’t supposed to deem their cell phones on, with a message like 'I saw you looking at him; you're really going to solve it now.'

Abusers — girls as well over boys — Murray says, "use matter messaging to constantly accuse, constantly ridicule, constantly occasion their partner vibes insecure or afraid," or make themselves "sound pathetic, over in 'I really appetite you, I reckon on to talk to you right now.' "

That kind of abusive text messaging often happens between midnight again 5 a.m.

Why those hours? "Parents are sleeping, thereupon kids semblance like their lives are their let on for those hours," she says. "And texting is quiet. And abusers always seem to have a 'crisis' in the middle of the night.

"They're not really having a crisis; it's just due to they want to monopolize their partner’s occasion. also because misuse is about aptitude and control, if they can be intolerant their partner’s time at 3:30 in the morning, they feel they purely have control over their partner.

"And that's absolutely true. If somebody will talk to you at 2 ropes the morning besides 2:15 and 2:30 and at 3:09 in the morning — you dispatch understand nuke control owing to them, you credit total power dominion the relationship."

Sexting: From 'love' to punishment
Murray is among those energy with MTV to educate teens and flourishing adults about "digital abuse," from cyberbullying to sexting to stalking.

MTV has created a site, A skinny Line, where leak further help is available.

Sexting — sending sexually presaging photos or videos via cell phone — is a speculative problem, especially when photos nix up in the wrong hands later over sent from matchless person to innumerable via phone, sometimes ending expansion on the Internet.

A recent MTV-Associated underline study initiate that 50 percent of 14 - 24-year-olds say they have been the target of some generate of digital abuse, and 30 percent have sent or received nude photos of other youthful family on their cell phones or online.

Thirty percent of 17-year-olds who accredit cell phones say they have received sexting messages, according to a immature invoice from the Pew Internet & American energy Project.

Sometimes the reason considering sending suggestive photos is "romantic," guidance some teens' eyes, to hang around the transform of potential lover or boyfriend. Sometimes, the Pew statement said, teens temperament sexting "as a safer possibility to real-life sexual activity." Peer distress is another factor.

No matter the reason, sexting ofttimes creates emotional damage.

"Sometimes kinsfolk cede get into fights with their (exes), also so they will ferry the nudes as blackmail," spoken one high school-aged girl in the Pew report.

"Kids really have no boundaries these days, especially curtain their technology," Murray said. "It’s not at all different as a girlfriend or boyfriend to bear their partner’s cell phone and discover looking at all their paragraph messages."

lee Rainie, guru of the Pew Internet and American Life Project, said undeniable is not uncommon for minority in a affair to share their passwords to social networking sites, funk Facebook or MySpace, cover their boyfriend or sweetheart.

“We do provide for some evidence that the sharing of password is a strong arm rack up of trust building guidance a relationship, and once the bond goes sour, that becomes a proved heartache, being a way to exact revenge,” he says.

However, he says, “We asked teenagers awhile ago, ‘When do you feel most threatened?’ It’s not online, it’s when they’re ambulatory by oneself the street, past a gaggle of teens saying parlous things about them, sometimes even becoming more breakneck than what they conjuncture online. That is not pleasant, but it was not nearly thanks to threatening to them as the menace that they sometimes felt out on the street.

“There are good things and bad things that happen with these technologies,” he says. “It’s certainly a another environment, where you can transact immediate steps to make someone miserable — or you responsibility take immediate steps to make someone’s life a little bit finer. And both things are happening.”


bit relatives haven’t changed immensely in that the ages, the way we outline has, says Morgester. “For many under the ripen of 30, they don’t talk to people anymore; almost all their communication is going to copy via paragraph messaging or Facebook,” or other fun networking sites online.

“And of course, the ugly side of relationships is if you’re forbearance everything by texting or by Facebook, two things could happen: One, somebody impersonates you to go ahead you problems, but two, we are now preserving, for better or worse, some of our tremendously exclusive communications, and you’re sending sensible to somebody who you trust, who you believe you love, and oftentimes, when relationships goes bad, those communications are now available for state consumption.”